When did masochism become synonymous with submission, and sadism with dominance? Are these two truly synonymous? In the classic Venus in Furs, the protagonist Severin called himself his lover’s slave, but was he truly serving her or did he merely desire the illusion, without ever relinquishing control of his needs in her service, the way a submissive should? We’ve all heard of “topping from the bottom” — it is an expression usually employed with derision, indicating defective behavior in a submissive. But is it possible that masochistic dominants do exist?

The naked body confronts the viewer with their own social assumptions and restrictions: here is the human form, which God created and declared Good — what are you doing with it? Why are you so shocked to see it?

I want to make you cum, he said. I replied the world would end if he did. It didn’t end, but it was not the same world as before. Everything I thought I understood about life suddenly seemed false in the face of this fissure.

Dominance isn’t tying someone up, it’s taking over their body, enveloping their thoughts, their emotions, and their orgasms into a container of control. It’s pacing intimate interactions to the point of break for the submissive.

If left to its normal trajectory, the ecstatic annihilation is relivable: an annihilation which allows you to recover, a petit mort that defeats death. The mourning of its loss propels its future projection by creating an impulse and desire for further annihilations.

It’s not what the sadistic Ed Bagley did to his slave. However distasteful one may find the activities outlined by court documents, these are things that some practitioners of the lifestyle do willingly engage in. This is a matter of consent — and we don’t think it was possible.

A lot of people have taken to putting notices on their social media profiles that threaten legal action if said profile’s information is mined for content without permission. We’re concerned with these warnings because they give users the impression that putting these up somehow protects them. They do not.

The shutting down of this section, in my opinion, and the shift in focus to other sites to achieve similar results is a huge error that will not only not help the dire situation faced by sex trafficking victims, but endanger men and women who are involved in sex work by choice or non-coerced necessity.

If you infer that I must enjoy sex because I write about it favorably, you’re correct: I do. This does not mean necessarily that I have it randomly. It just means I have good sex. In my experience, having good sex is more than being good at sex – it’s about picking suitable partners. That means that I have a very precise vetting process for potential partners.

Whoever said gamers don’t get any action is obviously jealous. Gamers have been getting more consistent action than most other demographics for years now — so what if it’s not analog?