The co-founder of the East Coast-based Momentum sex conference is bringing the party west! On September 14, Catalyst will kick off at the Hilton Long Beach for the weekend, bringing attendees a plethora of sex educators and speakers to energize, motivate and catalyze sexual communication, activism and acceptance. Aren’t you just dying to attend? Us too.
The kinky social network Fetlife doesn’t take measures to protect user content and has shown incompetence or negligence in regard to user privacy, all the while prohibiting victims from warning others about predatory behavior in the BDSM community. As users, by enabling FetLife to continue espousing a code of silence and allowing them to spin security issues as “attacks,” we are letting our community become a breeding ground for exploitation.
The Sanfrancisco-based sex toy and education emporium Good Vibrations is holding a forum in San Francisco this fall to discuss the sexual state of the union. Their panelists (which read like a Who’s Who of sex education, research, journalism and commentary) will examine the awkward relationship between sex and mainstream media, pop culture and national politics. Day-long intellectual intercourse will be followed by a cocktail party, and, well, who knows where that will lead? We can be sure a fair share of attendees will conceive a book or two during the proceedings.
We’ve all heard what happens to athletes who don’t abstain from sex before the match: they lose. We don’t know how we know or when we first heard it, but we know it and somehow, it seems to make sense. Is it true? The media has been having a field day with this question, especially after digging up a review from the Clinical Journal of Sport Medicine from 2000 (um, slow news day?). We can’t be sure they actually read it, given their conclusions.
LetÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s talk about the strippers. Whether they like to be half-naked or not, whether they enjoy turning you on or not, there’s one thing they all have in common: they’re working. Whether you think that taking one’s clothes off for money is a great choice of career is really beside the point (is it a possibility for you to make $500 per hour at your job without a law degree? Just asking). These women are providing fantasy, yes, but that is their job. And as a patron of the establishment where they work, you need to treat them like you would anyone else who provides a service to you.
We are a species full of judgment. We judge one another on how we look, what we drive, where we work out, who we know, where we work, what OS we prefer Ã¢â‚¬â€œ if it exists, we’ve judged it. And no judgment is as harsh as that which is attached to attempts at seduction. James Brown’s “Sex Machine” and Marvin Gaye’s “Sexual Healing” do not belong on a sexytime playlist. Period.
Like we didn’t envy the public transportation system enough, or the fact that you can have a decent meal no matter what ungodly hour of the night it is. No. Now we have to also be jealous that New Yorkers don’t even need to leave bed to get a sex toy delivered. How wrong is this?! Sometimes it takes so long when we order takeout, we wonder whether it wouldn’t be faster to have the Chinese place down the street mail our beef-broccoli. It might even still be warm when it arrives!
Some years ago in London, the adult entertainment star Sabrina Deep had a revolutionary idea: to allow fans to experience what they saw in her films. A few days later, for her twenty-ninth birthday, she threw a party during which she had sex with 77 men for eight hours straight. To date that is the longest and most populated gang bang to grace the internet (she livecast it, of course!). Today, she’ll teach us what we need to know in the event we’d like to hold our own gang bang.
Too often, by using the word “feeling” so loosely, we confuse emotions with sensation. This is not about emotion. This is about the sensory experience. Try a little experiment and see how it goes: the next time you have sex, focus on the experience in your genitals. “Isn’t that what we do when we have sex, we feel our genitals?” Nicole Daedone asks in Slow Sex. “If you’re like most of us, you’ll discover the surprising truth that you have been spending most of your sex life thinking about everything but the feeling in your genitals.”