So this guy writes in to Penthouse magazine, right, about how his wife’s vagina is not as tight as it once was and he’s become obsessed with doing her in the ass. I’m distressed by the way that the subject matter was approached, but looking on the bright side, the question provided a perfect platform to discuss anal sex, which is something everyone could stand to learn a little more about.
Here’s an except from the response offered by Martin Downs, who has a Master of Public Health degree:
It should never hurt. Pain means something is wrong and is possibly causing harm.
Another key is using lots of good, water-based sex lube made specifically for that purpose (not spit, suntan lotion, or whatever else happens to be handy). However, even with copious lubrication, it still feels bad to stick something up your butt if you don’t really want it there. The muscles of your anal sphincter must be coaxed to relax in order to allow penetration. For that to happen, you have to feel safe, at ease, and completely willing. Don’t try to use booze or drugs as a shortcut, because they’re apt to cloud judgment and obscure pain, increasing the risk of injury. Desensitizing creams or lubes are also strongly discouraged for the same reason.
Before doing it with a partner, it’s a good idea to get comfortable with anal penetration through solo exploration, using fingers or dildos of different sizes. Always proceed slowly, and never force anything through the anus. Whether it’s as slender as a pinky finger or as fat as a soup can, it should slip in effortlessly.
So there you have it. A few good tips on proper anal sexing. Want more? Check out this forum. You’re welcome.
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