Sex in the Shower

Nov 25, 2009 • How To, Lessons


Debby Herbernick, the sex professor and author of Because It Feels Good has some pointers for getting it on wet and wild-style:

Wet doesn’t actually mean lubricated.

“As anyone who has spent significant time in a bath tub or shower knows, warm water can dry the skin and turn us all a bit prune-like,” she says. This also applies to the vagina, so make sure that you or your partner are well-lubricated before getting started.

Not all lubricants are created equal.

Water-based lubricant is, duh, soluble in water, so it won’t work. Oil-based lubricants work best in my opinion, but these are unsafe if you’re using a condom (more about this later). The best bet for condoms and showers, then, are silicone lubes. “Silicone based lubricants are slicker, longer lasting and difficult to wash away,” Herbenick notes.

Condoms have not been tested for underwater sex.

Careful here. We don’t know how safe condoms are in water. Will they slip or break more easily? “If you are relying on condoms for the prevention of sexually transmissible infections (STI) or pregnancy, then you should perhaps stick to sex on dry land rather than sex in the shower or bath,” the sex prof says.

Positions in the shower can be challenging.

“Rather than be rigid about how sex in the shower ‘should’ be, try expanding your idea of shower play,” Herbenick says. “Why not soap each other’s bodies up, or indulge in some oral sex play, as a means of foreplay? Sex in the shower can be used to enhance excitement and arousal before you transfer to dry sex, or at least the bed, for other types of sex you might wish to engage in.”

Personally, I find sex standing, with penetration happening from behind, most effective. If there are height issues, you can easily adjust at the knees. This requires a little bit of lower body strength, but it’s worth your while if you want the full experience.